Is Your Marriage Rad or Bad: 10 Tips to Help

Is your marriage rad or bad? 10 tips to help

This week is my 4th wedding anniversary! Our marriage is really good, and if you are new to my story, at first glance you would never know that 4 years ago we were also struggling to stay married. Let me tell you, marriage is a rad and beautiful thing, that God entrusts us to manage and maintain. It’s not easy at times, and no matter how much you love your spouse, if you neglect even the smallest things in your marriage you are risking throwing it down the drain. As I said, I know because I’ve been there.

No one goes to bed saying “I’m going to trash my marriage. I invited another person into my life to live with me until death does us part, and I want to destroy this person now.” If you did go to bed saying this, then there are some underlying issues somewhere in your life, but for the most part, this is not a normal thought.

I have loved my wife for a long time, and I never thought that I was ever going to be one of thous statistic. 40-50% of marriages end in a divorce, and that is crazy stupid. So, as mentioned, a few years ago my wife and I were about to split shortly after we got married. Long story short, I was not properly tending to my marriage like I should, and it is only due to God’s grace and mercy that saved it. It was one of the hardest times in my life and I never felt so afraid.

My wife and I have reconciled, and have been working together to make our marriage the way God intends it to be, and everything is great! When we broke up I tried to fix things my way but was only making things worse. I was digging myself deeper and deeper and the only way out was to give up. So I gave up on trying to do it alone, and I gave my marriage to God and trusted that he was going to take care of us. I spent those months not only praying and fighting for my marriage, but studying what it means to love someone, and how to take care of it. I would now love to share all the information that I have came across over the years of studying a Godly marriage because I would never in a million years wish that pain on anyone.

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“God, what are you trying to teach me?”

“God, what are you trying to teach me”

So I have not posted much in the past two months. I’ve been busy and June hit me hard, I mean really hard. I was sick and stressed, and had a hard time of recovery.  I’m the type of person that will wait until I absolutely have to go to the doctor before I go. So, I was feeling really cruddy and did what everyone else does, and I looked up my symptoms online. With fevers, boating, sharp pain, tiredness, all the symptoms pointed to possible appendicitis. You know the alien bursting out of your chest kind of pain. Yeah… so I went to Urgent Care. I waited, and waited, and when I finally got in, they asked for my symptoms, told me that it might be gas, but that it could be appendicitis, said they couldn’t help me with that and if it was like that the next day to go to the ER for a CT Scan, and then charged me $300.

Well, that sucked….and guess what. I did not feel good the next day. I waited until about midday and then had my wife take me to the ER. So we are in the waiting room with the kids. We waited and waited, and then I let me wife take the kids home, and told her I would call her for a pickup. When I finally got in, I laid in my gown for maybe an hour in a really cold room, then finally someone came in, asked for my symptoms, told me that it might be gas and sent me on my way…with a bigger bill (cough, cough)

I was still feeling sick, and worn out from being dehydrated. I called my wife to pick me up. I waited and waited…and waited. In turns out, while my wife was on the way to turn in to the hospital, the transmission of our van blew out, which turned out to cost more than what we paid for the van. “Uhhhhh, why God are you testing me this week?” was what I was thinking.

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God Loves You More Than 3000

God loves you more than 3000

In my latest post This is the Endgame I had wrote about God’s final plan, and how Jesus defeats death. The question is why? We see in the bible that God has had a few time to wipe us out and start over. We have caused many issues for God, yet He never gives upon us. Why? Why, set plans in motion to redeem us, when all we do is destroy this world, hurt people and even deny God?

Endgame Spoilers ahead.

In Avengers Endgame we see Iron Man make one last snap to destroy Thanos. Despite his rocky relationship with his fellow teammates, he gives it all he has to subdue his enemy. He knows that the snap severely injured Thanos and the Hulk and that he will not survive. Why did he do that?

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This is the Endgame

This is the Endgame

I’ve given it about a month now to really let people process Avenger’s Endgame and to avoid spoiling it for people. I will be doing a few posts regarding Avenger’s Endgame. First I want to address that there will be spoilers in this post if you still haven’t seen the movie and have managed to dodge any spoilers, you are fairly warned now.

This movie hit me hard from the first 5 minutes.  The thought that my family just disappearing in front of my eyes, and being left alone horrifies me. Way to go Marvel for making Dad’s across the world cry the first 5 minutes of an action-packed superhero movie. I mean I thought that Infinity War hit me hard with Spidey saying “I don’t feel so good”

As a longtime comic fanboy and seeing every Marvel movie in theaters since day one, this movie and journey have been a long and bumpy journey all leading up to this one moment. Cue up the Phil Collins drums, as I have been waiting for this moment all my life….well not all my life, but it has been anticipated for a very long while.

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The Tooth Will Set You Free: A Little Bit Of Wisdom

The Tooth will set you free

A little over a week ago, I went in for oral surgery to have my wisdom teeth removed. This was long overdue.  I was forewarned, that because I’m in my 30’s that recovery was going to be a little hard. They drilled that statement so many times, that I was starting to feel brittle and old.  Anyways, sometimes I’m a little stubborn when it comes to things like this and should have just down it a decade ago. There were no complications,  I went in on a Friday, got home, rested and ate a butt load on pudding and jello. Everything seemed to be fine. Saturday comes along and I was up, out and about doing things.

Sunday I went to church even though I had planned on being out, then went

and celebrated mother’s day by taking my wife out to eat Mexican and

throwing axes, as we had a kid-free weekend.

It was my intentions to get back to work Monday and continue on with life like normal.

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XXX:The Lion’s Den

XXX: The Lions Den

I’ve heard a speaker who has traveled to Missouri once mention that on the long stretch of Missouri highway, there are a lot of cornfields,  a lot of firework stores and a lot of porn shops. This really changes the meaning of our state’s motto the “show me state right?” I was recently on a small road trip with my family heading west to Kansas City, and you know what? There are a lot of cornfields, firework stores, and porn shops. Billboard after billboard promised of exotic fun, pleasure, and passion. One billboard sign that really got me was for a store called the Lion’s Den. I started to wonder how it got its name. If you really think about it, this name doesn’t make any sense. It’s literally terrible marketing on their part. Continue reading “XXX:The Lion’s Den”

We Built This City on a Rock that Rolled

This week is Holy Week, and this marks the cornerstone of the Christian Faith. The events that took place a couple thousand years ago, changed the faith of the Jewish culture and changed the world. This is a big deal! I will say one of the biggest events that I think a lot of people overlook is the tomb being empty.

I’ve been working on a youth lesson for Easter about the importance of the tomb being empty. Empty….is good….. is proof….is powerful….is permanent! I’m excited! I’ve had this other idea in my head for some time now, but I think it that might go over teenagers heads, but a few weeks back I caught myself singing along to We Build This City on Rock and Roll by Starship and thinking to myself that if you just change two words in the title you have your self a good Sermon title. So here we are with “We Built This City on a Rock That Rolled

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